Updated: Nov 17, 2022
You may experience having bad relationships with your friends, co-workers, family, and your partners. It is considered normal for you to fight occasionally, have misjudgments, and so on.
But sometimes, things can get a little nasty whenever two people fight over the simplest of things. Emotions can make or break a relationship, depending on how you manage your connection to each other. Sometimes, troubled relationships can spiral down to an emotional breakdown, creating damage to each person’s self-confidence and self-esteem.
“Forms of rejection can take place, like refusing to acknowledge your presence, value, or worth. You may be rejected by not communicating or telling you that you are useless and inferior, adding a devaluation of thoughts and feelings.”
You can be degraded by insults, ridicules, name-calling, and behavior that diminishes identity, dignity, and self-worth. Inducing terror by intimidation, threatening, and extreme fear.
Emotional abuse is based on power and control.
Isolation can also be seen whenever there is emotional abuse. Confinement, restriction of normal contact with other people, and limiting freedom within your environment may be present when this situation arises.
Many people are victims of this kind of abuse.
It starts with a simple tension between you and the other person, eventually breaking down your communication in your relationship. After this, verbal and emotional abuse takes place. This is where intimidation, anger, blame, threats, and arguing occur. Of course, after any heated argument, the abuser apologizes to you, gives excuses, blames you, denies the abuse that just happened, or even says that the abuse was not as bad as you claim it to be. Then the incident is forgotten, as if there were no abuse that took place earlier. This cycle is to be repeated and sustained, and if not dealt with properly, may even get worse.
A harsh aspect of emotional abuse is brainwashing.
The abuser keeps you unaware of what is going on and what changes are taking place in your environment. They may control finances, make plans on their own, talk behind your back, or isolate you from your friends or family. The abuser controls your time and physical environment and works to suppress your behavior. He creates a sense of powerlessness over you, together with fear and dependency.
In experiencing all these, you may have sleep problems, and a hint of depression as well. You may feel severe anxiety, low self-esteem, fearfulness, aggression, extreme dependence, frequent crying, and even suicide attempts.
When dealing with this kind of controlled relationship, it is best to seek advice from those who are closest to you. You, the victim of emotional abuse may need to hear what others think about your present relationship since you need emotional stability to function well as a person. You should try talking to a family member or close friend when dealing with emotional abuse.
It is best that these things are discussed with the people who love you most before it’s too late. Get the resources you need to handle the situation. Get both written resources and personal help from those who are trained in how to handle the abuser and the victim of abuse
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